Do you miss the close, intimate relationship that you once had?
Do you feel caught in an endless cycle of arguments?
Do you despair that you and your partner have lost the spark that brought you both together?
Do you feel lonely in your relationship?
For nearly 20 years I have helped many, many couples repair their marriages and create great, lasting relationships. I provide Couples Counseling to people who are married, living together, or engaged. Since the Bay Area is a unique melting pot my practice is filled with couples that come from various walks of life and many different cultures. If you have been saying to yourself, “I need help for my relationship,” look no further. I can help you and your partner rebuild the bridge of love back to each other.
All relationships are bumpy.
Every relationship hits a challenging place from time to time. Living here in Silicon Valley can be particularly trying for couples. Between the demanding nature of a Tech career, the high cost of living, and the pressures to succeed that you and your children feel, life here in the Bay Area can put undo strain on your relationships. Having spent nearly 20 years in the Tech world I have an “insiders view” of the particular tensions that are inherent in that environment. I am well equipped to help you rebuild your relationship despite the worry that there may be no path back to happiness.
Silicon Valley is also home to a surprising number of Start-Ups. I work with many couples in which one partner is involved with a Start-Up (most often as CEO). There is a unique pattern of stress and disconnection that shows itself here and couples get caught in a challenging pattern that often has the added aspect of uncertainty and risk. Helping to find a balance between the relentless needs of a Start-Up and one’s family creates a foundation that actually supports success in this exciting segment of the Tech community.
Why do I have a high success rate in helping couples save their relationships?
I am committed to working with couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy. During our Couples Counseling sessions you will learn to understand the negative pattern of behaviors that you find yourselves stuck in. By slowing things down and exploring the emotions, perceptions and deep, core needs that lie hidden below the reactive behavior, you will begin to understand yourself and your partner in an “Aha” way.
Each person is responsible for their side of the relationship and working with Emotionally Focused Therapy you will learn to shift from blaming your partner to looking at your own triggers and reactivity in a more mindful and calm way. We will explore how each of you gets caught in a negative pattern of blame, disconnection and distrust. You will develop the skill to let your partner know about your upset without the negative feedback loop being activated. Most importantly Emotionally Focused Therapy will help you to be able to learn to express your needs in a way that your partner can hear and respond to, and to help you to reach for your partner when you are feeling disconnected or alone.
With support and time, you will come to be able to shift the dynamic of the destructive cycle to one that encourages connection, trust and safety. You and your partner will feel that you are enriched by your relationship and that it provides you with energy so that you can truly enjoy the beauty of the Bay Area with its many attractions, terrific weather and vibrant communities.
How do I know that Therapy will work with my relationship?
Therapy is an investment in your relationship and in your family. While there is no 100% sure-fire model for working with couples to restore happiness, Emotionally Focused Therapy is the Gold Standard of Couples Counseling and has been shown to be highly effective with most couples. I have witnessed tremendous healing in couples that engage in therapy. You can find a brief summary of Emotionally Focused Therapy research in the Resource section.
You CAN build a bridge back to love!
It is my goal to help you have fun with your partner and revive the initial spark that brought the two of you together. I have a powerful track record in helping couples rebuild their relationship and I hope that you will contact me to help you and your partner to build trust, security and intimacy. You deserve to be in a happy relationship with the love of your life!
Intensive Couples Therapy
Intensive Couples Therapy offers a powerful alternative to weekly sessions. Couples often report that they find that there is a greater shift in the dynamics that they have been struggling with. Couples find that the longer framework helps them to be more able to understand their partners and to actually have the time to process what they have learned so that it “sticks” when they are at home.
When is Intensive Couples Therapy useful?
- When we have reached an impasse in weekly sessions
- After a separation
- After the discovery of an affair or other betrayal
- When a particularly difficult issue needs to be discussed and processed
- After weekly sessions have terminated and a new issue arises that sends the couple into a negative cycle that they cannot restructure on their own
We will meet for ½ day sessions Friday, Saturday and Sunday. The days are structured as follows:
- 90 minute joint session
- 60 minute individual sessions
- 30 minute joint session
Saturday and Sunday:
- 90 minute joint session
- 30 minute individual sessions
- 90 minute joint session
There are breaks scheduled into each day and I recommend that water and snacks are brought to keep you feeling refreshed during our work together.
Call 650 289-9972 or email me at Catherine@catherine-morris.com to schedule a brief phone consultation so that I can learn about what is troubling you or your relationship. You will have a chance to ask me any questions you might have about my practice or Emotionally Focused Therapy. We can then schedule an appointment and get started creating the relationship that you have been yearning for.