We don’t tend to think about attachment in adult relationships, yet it is equally important as attachment in children. Attachment is a bit different in adult relationships in that it is reciprocal. A parent doesn’t expect their child to reciprocate a sense of safety, but a partner definitely looks for that reciprocity (even if they […]
A New Science of Love
Couples therapy has undergone many changes over the years. Different models of therapy, as well as an understanding of the neuroscience of relationships, have emerged on the psychology scene. In my evolution as a couples therapist I have done much reading and studying of different models and have found that Sue Johnson’s model of Emotionally […]
On Valentine’s Day and Every Day… Make Your Relationship a Safe Haven – Learn the Language of Love!
I am posting this blog entry again on this Valentine’s Day Do you feel secure in your relationship? Do you thrust that your partner is there for you emotionally when you need them? In a healthy relationship, partners develop a secure attachment to one another whereby each person becomes a safe haven and a solid […]
Save your marriage: Love doctor
I thought that I’d do something a bit different this week. I am posting an interview of Dr. Sue Johnson that was published some years ago. Please enjoy! Has Sue Johnson done the impossible? The Ottawa psychologist claims not only to have unlocked the mystery of love, but she says she can fix your marriage […]
Uh-oh, here we go again! Interrupting the Negative Cycle.
When couples are learning to recognize the pattern of behavior and emotions that catch them in a cycle of arguments it is often frustrating that the arguments don’t stop immediately. Using Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy I work with couples to help them to understand this driving force and to develop the skills to notice the […]