Do you find yourself automatically going from “zero to angry” in less than fifteen seconds when your partner says something that disturbs you? If you’ve ever acted on autopilot when your partner says or does something that has rocked your boat, your reaction might have been triggered by an old experience that you may be […]
Me, Thee, We
We enter relationships and either feel that we are supposed to merge into one entity with our partner or struggle with how to maintain a sense of Self and identity. This is an issue that couples often speak about in their sessions with me. How, they wonder, do they navigate this delicate dance between being […]
Team Up!
A couple working together as a team is a lot like two partners beginning a business. At first, the two partners are excited about what they are building. They hold a vision for their future, and they are aware of their own and each other’s talents and desires. Plans are made with an expectation of […]
Turning around a Painful Relationship with Couples Therapy
Recently, during a particularly difficult session, one partner threw his hands in the air and said, “This is just hopeless. It’s never going to change. We’re doomed.” When a couple is involved in an emotionally charged therapy session, they don’t realize that this is a replication of the feedback loop from their relationship. This feedback […]
The Importance of Emotions in Relationships.
Ten tips for talking with your partner about your emotions. The role of emotions is quite often misunderstood in relationships. I have heard many clients state with frustration “Why do we have to talk about how I feel about things. My partner just needs to forget the past and be happy now. I’ve said I’m […]