Catherine Morris, MFT

Psychotherapy for Couples, Individuals and Families

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Team Up!

October 13, 2021

A couple working together as a team is a lot like two partners beginning a business. At first, the two partners are excited about what they are building. They hold a vision for their future, and they are aware of their own and each other’s talents and desires. Plans are made with an expectation of responsibility, follow through, and clear communication. And each partner is aware that adjustments must be made when difficulties or obstacles arise.

A couple operating as a team will direct individual accomplishments toward the objectives that nurture and allow their relationship to flourish. While it may be a bit of a stretch to compare your relationship to a business venture, when you and your partner consider your relationship in terms like those used in business, you will be able to create a very strong foundation for your relationship.

Teams value collaboration. Teams work together toward a common vision and understand that thinking, planning, making decisions and taking actions are best performed cooperatively.  Working together as a team will help you and your partner to begin to build the kind of relationship that supports each of you in attaining the extraordinary results your relationship deserves.

Characteristics of a Successful and Healthy Relationship Team

  • Trust is a solid foundation of the relationship
  • Productive conflict is acknowledged as a natural part of the relationship
  • A commitment is made by each person to the relationship
  • Each partner’s values are aligned with the goals of the relationship
  • Visions, goals, and outcomes are clearly defined
  • Each partner is accountable for their actions in the relationship
  • Mistakes are readily admitted
  • Mutual respect is shown
  • Each partner is given the benefit of the doubt
  • Help is asked for and graciously given
  • Each partner asks for what they need and want
  • Partners rely on each others’ strengths
  • Apologies are offered and accepted when necessary
  • Interactions are lively, engaging, and loving
  • Potential problems are identified quickly
  • Resolutions to problems that are acceptable to both partners are sought
  • Effective communication skills are used to negotiate agreements and make decisions
  • A safe environment is created in which each partner can be vulnerable
  • Partners are open to resolving conflict
  • Each partner listens to what the other is saying
  • Effective and clarifying questions are asked when something is not understood
  • Each partner has integrity; they remain true to their word and do what they say they are going to do

Good teamwork can not only help you solve problems that you might not be able to solve by yourself but can dramatically help dismantle the distance that may have grown between the two of you. To create a powerful and successful relationship, try teaming up with your partner.

 

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